The Mixed Emotions
of Loving Hearts
Wanting the best for all people,
and trying not to hate anybody, but
longing for the clarity of non-violent disaster,
after a glimpse of what might have been,
so that we can start over and grow closer to
love and justice, with no one left behind.
see also Seven Helpful Ideas for Not Hating
For a million years, we’ve watched the sky, and huddled in fear. But somehow you still find yourself quietly rooting for the storm. As if a part of you is tired of waiting, wondering when the world will fall apart—by lot, by fate, by the will of the gods—almost daring them to grant your wish.
Greek, from LACHESIS, "the disposer of lots." Lachesis is the name of the second of the three fates in Ancient Greek mythology. Clothed in white, Lachesis is the measurer of the thread woven by Clotho's spindle.
-- John Koenig
Liberals feel it and conservatives feel it. It is sometimes disguised as a call for order but really it is a call for chaos and the moral clarity brought about by chaos. It's a mixed up emotion that is behind all apocalyptic thinking, ancient and contemporary. Look for it at your local football game when your team starts losing badly, and the fans on your side (yourself included) start quietly rooting for the disaster to be complete and absolute, even though they have sad looks on their faces, because then, at least, there will be clarity about winners and losers, and maybe you can start over the next season. Look for it at political rallies, too.
Its called lachesism and often it is the obverse side of a glimpse of what might have been but was not: otherwise called a "moment of tangency."
Lachesism is but one of the words in The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, now online and soon to become a book. It is created by John Koenig -- artist, writer, photographer -- featured below in two TEDtalks below. The purpose of the dictionary is to help us find language for feelings and thoughts that are not yet in the English dictionary but influential in us all. In many instances he creates videos to help us understand the feelings and ideas more deeply. Click here for all videos in the series. Click here for an archive of all the new words to date.
His work enriches several key ideas in open and relational (process) theology. One is that our lives are a series of unfolding events, each of which is unique in itself, and at the heart of each are emotions. Whitehead calls them subjective forms. Koenig helps us name the emotions so that we can become aware of them, share them, and allow them to be creatively transformed, if needed.
Another is that we are all connected one to another, even as we may not know each other, and that these feelings and emotions are ways that we are connected. Our feelings are both private and forms of connection: both at the same time. Put simply, new words help us get to know each other and get to know ourselves. They serve the interests of the deep soul whose heart beckons us, all the time and in every way, to become a community of love. The lure within each of us to find words, and create them if they do not yet exist in dictionaries, is one way the spirit of creative transformation is at work in the world.
And still another is that each moment is unique in itself, and also an end in itself. John Koenig calls it Ambedo: a moment you experience for its own sake. Whitehead thinks that our lives consist of just these moments, some wonderful, some horrible, some engaging, some boring, some asleep, some awake, each unique. He calls them "actual occasions of experience." John Koenig helps us understand the emotional dimensions of many occasions,inviting us to make words of our own, because,after all, the dictionary is by no means complete.
-- Jay McDaniel
A Sample of Words in the Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows