How to Have a Flagship Marriage
Jason Isbell and Process Theology
springboards for thought while listening to "Flagship"
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Process Theology and Marriage:
There's a few too many years on this hotel
Fat Soul Marriage
An ideal (and often idealized) image of love
The grittiness of love:
Every Marriage is Unique
I shared Flagship with a friend of mine who appreciated every part of it except the metaphor of "flagship" and the idea of staying in a "Presidential Suite." She found the metaphor too elitist. "Donald Trump might like the image," Alice said, "but not me. I'm a Motel Six or Airbnd kind of person and so is my husband. If we went to the beach we'd need to take our children with us. Can he change the lyrics?" I don't think he can, I said, and added that staying in a Presidential Suite was probably far beyond the economic means of the imagined narrator of the song. "Country music accepts the conventional aspirations of society and works with them." She wasn't happy. "But it ought to challenge those norms," she said. "It ought to challenge the culture of consumerism and the idea that success is measured in terms of money and privilege. I agreed so added two verses for Alice.
-- Jay McDaniel
Jason Isbell's Verse
Baby let’s not ever get that way
Alternatives for Alice
A flagship's not our way, it's too elite
After walking on the beach let's go back home
A Process-Relational Wedding
C. Robert Mesle
“It is no small matter that Kate and Max chose this place for their wedding. Obviously, they both love spending time in nature. But nature also powerfully reveals what marriage is about. Consider the air we are breathing right now. It does not merely pass in and out of our lungs; it becomes part of every living cell in our bodies. We are MADE of this air. Consider also the water which flows in these creeks, rivers, and clouds. When we drink this water, it does not merely pass through us; it becomes our living cells. We ARE this water. Nature reminds us of our deep union with each other.
What is true of our bodies is also true of our souls. Since I am a philosopher, let me tell you a great secret of life—a soul is not a thing, it is not something which stands untouched by the events of your life. Your soul is the river of your life; it is the cumulative flow of your experience. But what do we experience? The world. Each other. So your soul is the cumulative flow of all of your relationships with everything and everyone around you. In a different image, we weave ourselves out of the threads of our relationships with everyone around us. But clearly, some people, some relationships, are the central threads of that weaving.
Kate and Max, as you live together over time, remember that you will be creating your lives, your souls, out of your relationship with each other. Kate told me that Max knows that the path to happiness is paved with tiny pebbles as much as it is by the big stepping stones. And that is true. Whether we think of weaving our souls, or laying a path we will walk, the small things matter so much. So have a care what you give each other for your self-creativity. Each smile or frown, each touch, each kiss, each kind or angry word, becomes the material out of which you both create your own life and life together.”
-- C. Robert Mesle, from A Soul is Not a Thing: A Process-Relational Wedding
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