Faith, Hope, and Grit
On Being the Parent of Someone
Who is Difficult, Different, or Disturbed
“You can love someone and still not accept him fully for who he is.”
-- Andrew Solomon
I gave the hardest prayer I ever made. I wished for my son to kill himself and he did.
GROSS: I want to quote something. There's a couple of things that Dylan Klebold's mother said to you, and I guess this was upon hearing the news of what was going on at Columbine. She said, while every mother in town was praying that her child was safe, I had to pray that mine would die before he hurt anyone else. And then she said to you that she had hoped that he would die by suicide rather than going into the criminal justice system where he might be executed.
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Holding a Broken Heart, by Reverend Teri Daily
Where is God in Mental Illness, by Bruce Epperly
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What if the child's behavior is totally unjustifiable and he becomes a criminal or a killer?
There's an old adage about children that says: The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. But what if it does? What if your child is profoundly different from you because they have Down syndrome, autism, dwarfism or schizophrenia? What if the child is transgendered? What if the child's behavior is totally unjustifiable, and they become a criminal or a killer? What if the child was conceived in rape and is a reminder of that act of brutal violation?
I thought I was flying to Italy but I landed in Holland.
SOLOMON: You know, there's a famous passage - I don't know what else to call it but a passage, a sort of little, almost a prose poem by Emily Perl Kingsley, who was a writer for "Sesame Street" who has a son with Down syndrome and whose son has done remarkably for someone affected by DS.
Scattered Reflections After Hearing